Is The Blame Game Holding You Back?

Is the Blame Game Holding You Back

Intro.

For years the blame game was keeping me down. I blamed my abusive father for my anxiety, depression, and drug addiction. I blamed my mother for staying with my father. Sometimes, I would even put the full blame for certain things on myself which always led to a major depressive state. I was always looking for a single cause to blame for every bad situation I found myself in.

One the most self-destructive things we do as humans is look for a single cause or person to blame every time we have a problem. While everything we experience in our life has an impact on us, we do have the power to determine how it will affect the person we become.

In this post, I'm going to talk about what the blame game is, how it can negatively impact our lives, and how to stop playing it.

What is the blame game?

There are two main types of blame; personalization, and the normal kind of blame we place on others. While it is normal to acknowledge fault in others and ourselves, the blame game occurs when something bad happens and we immediately put the full blame on ourselves or others and react with our emotions. There is no room for honest mistakes in the blame game and we use it to justify our reactions and how we feel. This is a common trait in people who suffered from child abuse, mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, and drug addiction.

How does the blame game affect our lives and others?

When we are playing this game, we use the blame as an excuse to justify the way we feel and react when something bad happens to us. It's a never-ending cycle of bad things happening and rationalizing the way we react by pointing the finger at ourselves and others. The more we do this the more it becomes a mental habit that we do subconsciously without even realizing it. It leads to self-destructive decision making and even ruins friendships in the process. It doesn't solve anything or get us anywhere. If all we're doing is pointing fingers, we never have the opportunity to learn from these situations and then the cycle continues.

If this is you, keep reading. I'm going to show you how to break the cycle and actually benefit from every bad situation that happens to you.

How to stop playing the blame game?

This is going to require you to look at things a bit different when something bad happens. We never get anywhere or learn anything when we let our emotional reactions take hold right away. Set your emotions aside and take a deep breath. Take some time to evaluate the entire situation and series of events that took place around it. Try to view things from a bird's eye view looking down from above. What went wrong? Many times there a lot of little events that took place that led to the bad thing happening. We all make mistakes in life. The important thing to do is not beat up on ourselves and others. We need to learn from these things so when similar little events happen, we can recall the previous time and either make a better decision for ourselves or advise someone else. Everything that happens in life is a lesson. We never learn anything that will improve our lives by reacting with to these lessons with our emotions.

Conclusion

Many of the problems that exist in society today are a direct result of people reacting to situations with their emotions without taking the time to evaluate things. Our emotions can drive us to do great things in life, but they can also be our downfall if not used properly. I'm not saying we shouldn't acknowledge when we or others make mistakes. What I am saying is there are lessons to be learned and we can't learn from them unless we take the time to evaluate the situation. We should take the time to learn from all of life's situations both good and bad. Learn what works and what doesn't. Learn what will improve our lives and what will hinder our progress. We should all constantly be looking for ways to improve ourselves so we can help others from the lessons we've learned. If we can all learn to do this just a little bit better, we can create a great atmosphere for not only ourselves and loved ones, but the world at large.

If there is one person on this planet that won't give up on you, it's me. I may not always tell you what you want to hear, but I will tell you what you need to hear.

Be Great,

Craig Daub

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